Book review: Empowered ME (Mother Empowers)

Waktu menyelesaikan target baca buku bulan lalu, pilihan buku jatuh pada buku yang diberikan oleh teman, Putri, dan yang kebetulan juga ditulis oleh teman sendiri, Puty. Sebetulnya sudah ingin beli dari pas PO sebelum terbit, namuun krn masih banyak 'utang' buku yang belum dibaca, ditahan-tahan dulu untuk belinya dan masuk ke daftar wishlist. Memang kalau rezeki tuh ga kemana, ya, hehehe..

Setelah baca, i've been meaning to write a review about this book, dannnn pas banget sama tema Nulis Kompakan Mamah Gajah Ngeblog bulan ini. :)

Judul bukunya: Empowered ME (Mother Empower)

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As a background story kenapa aku ingin banget untuk ngereview buku ini adalah: Aku setuju banget dengan pemikiran dari Puty agar setiap Ibu (dan Istri) bisa menjadi Ibu yang mandiri. Well, we never know what will happen in the future. Dulu, waktu masih awal menikah dan baru lahir 1 anak, bayangan untuk hidup bahagia bersama keluarga sampai anak-anak besar dan menua bersama pasangan terasa sangat nyata. Sampai, dengan tiba-tiba dan pada saat yang berdekatan, ada 2 teman (bahkan salah satunya sahabat dekat aku) yang kehilangan suaminya. Tidak ada sakit apa-apa sebelumnya, tanpa ada peringatan, hidup pastinya sangat berubah. Dari situ, aku mulai merubah cara pikir dan pandang, bahwa aku (istri) harus berdaya, kuat dan mandiri. 

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Buku ini menggambarkan proses bagaimana untuk menjadi Ibu yang berdaya. Dimulai dengan pengertian tentang Ibu berdaya itu sendiri yang sering kali disalahartikan dengan Ibu yang memiliki penghasilan yang banyak. Buku ini meluruskan dari hal tersebut dan berangkat dari sana, perjalanan untuk menjadi Ibu berdaya pun dimulai. 

Isi dari buku ini sistematis, ditulis dengan gaya bahasa yang ringan dan khas Puty, dengan ilustrasi-ilustrinya yang memberikan kesan 'segar' pada buku ini. Walaupun begitu, sebenarnya isi dari buku ini sangat berbobot, dapat terlihat bahwa Puty menggunakan banyak literasi untuk menyusun buku ini. Hal yang penting lainnya adalah, isian dari buku ini terasa sangat applicable, bisa diaplikasikan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Untuk awal, misalnya, kita dapat mengaplikasikan beberapa bagian dari buku ini ke kehidupan kita. Seperti: menentukan tujuan, cara menentukan prioritas, dan sebagainya. 

Ada beberapa worksheet yang dapat kita isi sendiri sehingga kita sendiri yang dapat menganalisis apa yang kita butuhkan, apa tujuan kita, atau apa kelebihan dan kekurangan kita agar kita dapat maju atau move on untuk menjadi lebih baik. Buku ini seperti tidak menggurui melainkan seperti memberikan canvas dalam koridor terarah untuk mencapai tujuan menjadi Ibu yang berdaya. 

Buku ini terasa sangat 'ngena' dan terkadang 'gw banget' karena buku ini ditulis dengan memanfaatkan pengalaman dari Puty sebagai seorang Ibu dan sekaligus content creator yang menurut saya pribadi, sangat berdaya. Contoh-contoh kasusnya terasa sangat riil dan seperti 'everyday life'. 

I would love to recommend this book to every mother out there. Untuk setiap ibu dan istri agar lebih berdaya, untuk diri sendiri, keluarga dan lingkungan. 

Thank you, Puty, for writing such a great 'mom-help' book :)

I Can

Do you know my another favorite song when i need a motivation to do something?

I can, by Nas.

So listen to the song,

I know i can,
be what i wanna be,
if i work hard at it,
i'll be where i wanna be
i know i can, i know i can
be what i wanna be, be what i wanna be
if i work hard at it, if i work hard at it
i'll be where i wanna be, i'll be where i wanna be

b, b boys and girls listen up, you can be anything in the world
in god we trust, an architect, doctor, maybe an actress
but nothin' comes easy it takes much practice,
like i met a woman who was becoming a star,
she was very beautiful leaving people in awe
singin' songs lena Horne, but the younger version,
hung wit' the wrong person, got her stunger than irwin,
cocaine sniffi'n up drugs all in her nose,
could've died so young, now looks ugly and old,
no fun cuz now when she reaches for hugs
people hold thier breath cuz she smells of corrosion and death,
watch the company you keep, and the crowd you bring,
cuz they came to do drugs and you came to sing,
so if you gonna be the best im'a tell you how,
put your hands in the air and take the vow

i know i can, i know i can
be what i wanna be, be what i wanna be
if i work hard at it, if i work hard at it
i'll be where i wanna be, i'll be where i wanna be

b, b boys and girls listen again
this is for grown looking girls who's only ten,
the ones who watch videos and do as they see
as cute as can be, up in the clubs with fake i.ds,
careful 'fo you meet a man with h.i.v.
you can host a tv like oprah winfrey
whatever you decide, be careful, some men be rapists
so act your age, don't pretend to be older than you are,
give yourself time to grow, you're thinking he can give you wealth
but so young boy, you could use alot of help you know
ya thinkin' life's all about smokin' weed and ice,
you don't wanna be my age and can't read and write
beggin' different women for a place to sleep at night,
smart boys turn to men and do whatever they wish
if you believe you can achieve, then say it like this

i know i can, i know i can
be what i wanna be, be what i wanna be
if i work hard at it, if i work hard at it
i'll be where i wanna be, i'll be where i wanna be

b before we came to this country,
we were kings and queens-never porch monkeys
there was empires in africa called kush,
timbuktu, where every race came to get books to learn from black teachers
who taught greeks and romans, asians arabs, and gave them gold
when gold was converted to money it all changed
money then became empowerment for europeans,
the persian military invaded
they heard about the gold, the teachings and everything sacred
africa was almost robbed naked,
slavery was money, so they began making slaveships
egypt was the place that alexander the great went
he was in shock that in the mountains were black faces
shot off their nose to impose what basically
still goes on today you see
if the truth is told the youth can grow,
they'll learn to survive, until they gain control
nobody says you have to be gangsters, hoes
read more, learn more, change the globe
ghetto children do your thing
hold your head up little man you're a king
young princess when you get your wedding ring
your man's saying she's my queen 
 i know i can, i know i can
be what i wanna be, be what i wanna be
if i work hard at it, if i work hard at it
i'll be where i wanna be, i'll be where i wanna be

a really good lyrics, and even got an award for that.
it is really true, that if we WANT to be someone or to something,
just believe that we CAN do it :D


I know I can be what I wanna be,
If I work hard in it, I'll be where I wanna be.

*\(^o^)/*

That Day

It is so true that sometimes, a song can describe our feeling better.

And this song is so me, especially tonight.

That Day, by Natalie Imbruglia.

That day, That day
What a mess what a marvel
I walked into that cloud again
And I lost myself
And I'm sad, sad, sad
Small, alone, scared
Craving purity
A fragile mind and a gentle spirit

That day, That day,
What a marvelous mess
This is all that I can do
I'm done to be me
Sad, scared, small, alone, beautiful
It's supposed to be like this
I accept everything
It's supposed to be like this

That day, That day
I lay down beside myself
In this feeling of pain, sadness
Scared, small, climbing, crawling
Towards the light
And it's all that I see and
I'm tired and I'm right
And I'm wrong
And it's beautiful

That day, That day
What a mess, what a marvel
We're all the same
But no one thinks so
And it's okay
And I'm small and I'm divine
And it's beautiful
And it's coming
And it's already here
And it's absolutely perfect

That day, That day
When everything was a mess
And everything was in place
And there's too much hurt
Sad, small, scared, alone
And everyone's a cynic
And it's hard and it's sweet
But it's supposed to be like this

That day, That day
When I sat in the sun
And I thought and I cried
Cause I'm sad, scared, small
Alone, strong
And I'm nothing and I'm true
Only a brave man can break through
And it's all okay
Yeah, it's okay

That day, That day
I lay down beside myself
In this feeling of pain, sadness
Scared, small, climbing, crawling
Towards the light
And it's all that I see and
I'm tired and I'm right
And I'm wrong
And it's beautiful

That day, That day
What a mess, what a marveleous mess
We're all the same
But no one thinks so
And it's okay
And I'm small and I'm divine
And it's beautiful
And it's coming
And it's already here
And it's absolutely perfect

Someone Like You

Adele, someone like you.

no matter how many times I hear this song,

my mind keep flying towards you.

never mind I'll find someone like you

I wish nothing but the best for you too

don't forget me, I begged

I remember you said

sometimes it lasts in love,

but sometimes its hurts instead

time flies,

but memories don't.

*ps: untuk yang lagi galau :p

What makes you beautiful

I really like this song!

So full of joy, love, and simply youth

Everyone else in the room can see it,
Everyone else but you,

you can see the music video here

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One direction - What makes you beautiful

You're insecure,
Don't know what for,
You're turning heads when you walk through the door,
Don't need make-up,
To cover up,
Being the way that you are is enough,

Everyone else in the room can see it,
Everyone else but you,

Baby you light up my world like nobody else,
The way that you flip your hair gets me overwhelmed,
But when you smile at the ground it ain't hard to tell,
You don't know,
Oh oh,
You don't know you're beautiful,
If only you saw what I can see,
You'll understand why I want you so desperately,
Right now I'm looking at you and I can't believe,
You don't know,
Oh oh,
You don't know you're beautiful,
Oh oh,
That's what makes you beautiful

So c-come on,
You got it wrong,
To prove I'm right,
I put it in a song,
I don't know why,
You're being shy,
And turn away when I look into your eye eye eyes,

Everyone else in the room can see it,
Everyone else but you,

Baby you light up my world like nobody else,
The way that you flip your hair gets me overwhelmed,
But when you smile at the ground it ain't hard to tell,
You don't know,
Oh oh,
You don't know you're beautiful,
If only you saw what I can see,
You'll understand why I want you so desperately,
Right now I'm looking at you and I can't believe,
You don't know,
Oh oh,
You don't know you're beautiful,
Oh oh,
That's what makes you beautiful

Na Na Na Na Na Na Naaa,
Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na [x2]

Baby you light up my world like nobody else,
The way that you flip your hair gets me overwhelmed,
But when you smile at the ground it ain't hard to tell,
You don't know,
Oh oh,
You don't know you're beautiful,

Januari di Kota Dili

If the song is good, no matter when, it still enjoyable to listen to it.

Altough Dili is no longer be a part of Indonesia, still, i like to sing this song :)

you can download it from youtube.

Here is the lyrics:

Biarlah layar terkembang
Kuingin menyeberang
Melintas pulau dan lautan
Menjemput cintaku
Belahan jiwa yang tertinggal
Di Timur Lorosae…

Menderu ombakmu menabuh pantai
Kala tatap matamu Sapa jiwaku
Membiru lautmu memeluk pasir
Kala harum nafasmu sebut namaku

Dua langit t’lah membaur disuatu cakrawala
Dua biduk t’lah berlabuh disuatu dermaga cinta

Januari di kota Dili
Tak terkira cinta bersemi
Januari lekas berganti
Dan terhempas cintaku
Januari di kota Dili
Kian hangat dalam ingatan
Nantikanlah aku kembali
Tuk menjemput cintamu

La..la..la..la..la..la..la

Menguning bulanmu mengetuk malam
Mesra jemarimu belai sukmaku
Membias bintangmu menghias hidup
Dan hangatnya bibirmu kecup kalbuku

Dua langit telah membaur disuatu cakrawala
Dua biduk tlah berlabuh disuatu dermaga cinta

Cintamu Timor Lorosae…
Cintaku Timor Lorosae…

Januari di Kota Dili, by Rita Effendi

23:03, 08032001

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tapi hati, sungguh tak bisa dipaksa.



*balada ngerjain thesis, ketika rasa malas menyerang, wkwkwk*
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true colors

such an old song,
with so many singer that has a remake from this song.

So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors

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You with the sad eyes
Don't be discouraged
Oh I realize
Its hard to take courage
In a world full of people
You can lose sight of it all
And the darkness inside you
Can make you feel so small

But I see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful,
Like a rainbow

Show me a smile then,
Don't be unhappy, can't remember
When I last saw you laughing
If this world makes you crazy
And you've taken all you can bear
You call me up
Because you know I'll be there

And I'll see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that's why I love you
So don't be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful,
Like a rainbow

whatever we imagine

an old song, written by David Foster.
oh, how I love his songs so much!!

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Whatever We Imagine
>> James Ingram

Don't be afraid
I can meet you half way
We cant always know
Where the road ends up
But with some luck
I know we can go
Where-ever we imagine

Why should we wait
Later on maybe too late
Cause where can we run
When you see there's half a chance
That we might really become
Whatever we imagine

And imagine you and me
Just taking shots at what we see
And if we falter
Take away the dust
And just outlast them all

You ought to see
All your heroes in me
But if we get wise
We can break the walls we make
And you can see in my eyes
Whatever we imagine

And imagine you and me
Just taking shots at what we see
So let the walls go down
And we can try it again
Cause nobody can stop us now

Don't be afraid
Cause I'll meet you half way
You're not far behind
If we climb this hill
I know there's still a chance we can find
Whatever we imagine in our life

We can make it there baby
Ohhh, Whatever we imagine
Don't you see baby
It's all in our minds
I'll meet you halfway
Whatever we imagine

Thinking of You - Katy Perry

Comparisons are easily done, Once you've had a taste of perfection
Like an apple hanging from a tree,
I picked the ripest one, I still got the seed

You said move on, Where do I go?
I guess second best is all I will know

Cause when I'm with him, I am thinking of you
Thinking of you
What you would do if you were the one who was spending the night
Oh I wish that I was looking into your eyes

You're like an Indian summer in the middle of winter
Like a hard candy with a surprise center
How do I get better
Once I've had the best
You said there's tons of fish in the water
So the waters I will test

He kissed my lips, I taste your mouth
He pulled me in, I was disgusted with myself

Cause when I'm with him, I am thinking of you
Thinking of you
What you would do if you were the one
Who was spending the night
Oh I wish that I was looking into...

You're the best
And yes I do regret
How I could let myself let you go
Now the lesson's learned, I touched it I was burned
Oh I think you should know

Cause when I'm with him I am thinking of you
Thinking of you
What you would do if you were the one
Who was spending the night

Oh I wish that I was looking into your eyes
Looking into your eyes
Looking into your eyes
Oh won't you walk through
And bust in the door
And take me away
Oh no more mistakes
Cause in your eyes I'd like to stay...

Antologi Rasa- the review

Jakarta, the metropolitan city, with million people and million story.

And Ika Natassa, the author, brings one side of urban story in this book.

Keara, Harris, Rully and Denise.
A friendship that build by same work in out-of-nowhere city before they going back to Jakarta. The friendship that make your day, everyday, with stupid routine that make you laugh, release you from the stressful day in the office, in Jakarta.

The same friendship that make it even worse. Full of unrequited love, 4 dimensional love that fucked your mind very well -apologize my word, i just cited it from the book, hehe-.

And even a jerk and a bitch can fall in love that deeply, too.

Antalogi Rasa

i read this paragraph in the novel that i read last night.
it's fascinating, and maybe, it's truth

As we grow up, we learn that even one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' heart. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by.

So take lots of picture, laugh a lot, forgive freely, and love love you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. You just have to live your life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend in need, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, LIVE IN THE MOMENT because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.

-Antalogi Rasa

Rio

Rio! A blue macaw bird from Rio de Janerio called Blu has kidnapped to Minnesota when he was a baby. In Minnesota, which very different from his origin, he couldn't fly at all although he has a perfect healthy wings. He is the last male from his species, but fortunately an expert in bird life come all the way to Minnesota to find Blu. Blu is taken back to his origin in Rio, to meet the only woman is the species, Jewel. In Rio, the adventure is begin. He must survived from a kidnapper who want to sell him and Jewel to a collector.
And how is it end? well, I don't want to tell you, because it's boring to watch the movie if you already know the finished story, hehe

Anyway, this movie has 7 from 10 rate from IMDB.

Happy Rio! \(^o^)/

daun yang jatuh tak pernah membenci angin

Tere-Liye's book, again! :D

the story is about a Tania, who turn from a beggar little girl to a successful woman in the future. and all of her changes is due to her 'Angel'.

by this book, you will be invited to know how it feel to love someone deeply, started from even you don't know what love means is.

a love that you cannot reach.
a love that you only can keep it deep, down in your heart.
a love that hurt, that can influence your life.

you know, when you really love someone, just tell him/her how you feel. a hurt by being rejected is better than a hurt because you are not telling the truth, that you love him/her.


i quote this synopsis from the book:

"Dia bagai malaikat bagi keluarga kami. Merengkuh aku, adikku, dan Ibu dari kehidupan jalanan yang miskin dan nestapa. Memberikan makan, tempat berteduh, sekolah, dan janji masa depan yang lebih baik.

Dia sungguh bagai malaikat bagi keluarga kami. Memberikan kasih sayang, perhatian, dan teladan tanpa mengharap budi sekali pun. Dan lihatlah, aku membalas itu semua dengan membiarkan mekar perasaan ini.

Ibu benar, tak layak aku mencintai malaikat keluarga kami. Tak pantas. Maafkan aku, Ibu. Perasaan kagum, terpesona, atau entahlah itu muncul tak tertahankan bahkan sejak rambutku masih dikepang dua.

Sekarang, ketika aku tahu dia boleh jadi tidak pernah menganggapku lebih dari seorang adik yang tidak tahu diri, biarlah... Biarlah aku luruh ke bumi seperti sehelai daun... daun yang tidak pernah membenci angin meski harus terenggutkan dari tangkai pohonnya."

i believe

today is a gloomy day in my lab.
error come and come again without any solution yet.
and i decide to listen to this song,
a song that always can boost my courage and my mood.

be yourself an angel of kindness.

here is the lyrics.
enjoy.

"I Believe In You (Je Crois En Toi)"

Lonely
The path you have chosen
A restless road
No turning back
One day you
Will find your light again
Don't you know
Don't let go
Be strong

Follow you heart
Let you love lead through the darkness
Back to a place you once knew
I believe, I believe, I believe
In you

Follow your dreams
Be yourself, an angel of kindness
There's nothing that you can not do
I believe, I believe, I believe
In you.

Tout seul
Tu t'en iras tout seul
Coeur ouvert
A L'univers
Poursuis ta quete
Sans regarder derriere
N'attends pas
Que le jour
Se leve

Suis ton etoile
Va jusqu'ou ton reve t'emporte
Un jour tu le toucheras
Si tu crois si tu crois si tu crois
En toi
Suis la lumiere
N'eteins pas la flamme que tu portes
Au fonds de toi souviens-toi
Que je crois que je crois que je crois
Que je crois
En toi

Someday I'll find you
Someday you'll find me too
And when I hold you close
I'll know that is true

Follow your heart
Let you love lead through the darkness
Back to a place you once knew
I believe, I believe, I believe in you

Follow your dreams
Be yourself, an angel of kindness
There's nothing that you can not do
I believe, I believe, I believe
In you.

scars deeper than love

have you ever made a stupidity, and then you know that it is stupid things, but you keep making the same stupidity like that?

i don't know why but recently, those sentence keep ringing in my head.

for some reason, sometimes your heart and your brain cannot synchronize at all. and although you are try to deny what are you feeling in inside, you still can't.

maybe i wanted to hold on to you even if it meant that i had to lie to myself.

original song by Lim Jae Bom and Park Jeong Hyun.
the title is Scars Deeper than Love.
i find it in http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wtsqngjeKFE



i remember you. now i confess my ache of longing.

sunset with Rosie

Sunset bersama Rosie.

Tere-Liye's books is always fascinating!
This book recite about the victim's of Bali's bomb 2 (or known as Jimbaran Bomb).
A very happy family, mom and dad with 4 kids and also one uncle become a victim for that tragedy.
But love and fortitude, will be a great medicine for every problem.

And again, God knows what best for all.

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Dan ketika kusadari makna dari kalimat itu

Mencintai, bukan berarti memiliki
Mencintai, yang berarti menginginkan kebahagiaan untuk orang yang dicintai
Cinta, dengan segala sudut dan cara pandang.
Cinta, dengan atau tanpa kita buat.

Yang berarti berdamai dengan masa lalu.
Berdamai dengan semua kesalahan-kesalahan.
Yang kita perbuat. Atau bahkan karena kita belum membuatnya.

Karena kesempatan itu selalu ada.
Kesempatan, yang seyogyanya dapat kita ciptakan sendiri.
Tanpa terkungkung oleh batas-batas absolut ketakutan dan imajinari semata.
Kesempatan untuk mengatakan cinta, tanpa harus ditutupi, tanpa ada penyesalan.





Dan semoga aku bisa mencintaimu sebesar rasa cinta Rosie, Tegar, Sekar dan Nathan.
Juga, semoga kuntum bunga milikku sendiri yang sehebat, bahkan lebih hebat, Anggrek, Sakura, Jasmine dan Lily cepat datang menemuiku.

the diet

the very last one book that i got from my mas and i've just finished this book this morning.

if you love food, you will definitely love this book. why? because in every page in this book it mention a name of food. from the original toast to Sole Florentine I (and i don't even know what kind of food is that, haha), but the writer successfully makes me drooling ^.^

the story tells about Cate, a genius woman in making delicious food and have a success culinary school named Cate's Cookery have turn her life rapidly in the last one year because of food. Cate who has a bad memory of her mom's death because of too much eat obsessed to be slim because she and her sister Sam don't want to be like their mom.

the problem is started when she found out that she got pregnant and at the same day a publishing expressed their interest to make a book from her recipe. when she got home, another surprised she get from her husband Charles that the bank says he is bankrupt. Starting at that day, Charles drown himself to his job and Cate drown herself to food. During her pregnancy, she put on weight until 27 kilograms and her obesity force her to premature birth. from the twin, the girl only survivor but the doctor couldn't save the boy.

Charles take the daughter and go away from Cate's life. to get them back, she tries a lot of diet until one night when her weight reach 93 kilograms and she lost everything, include Sam and her book publishing, she feels desperate and want to end her life with eat just like her mom. but Josh, her old friend, came to rescue her by bring her an article about non-carb diet.

Cate try this diet and successfully return her weight but Charles doesn't want to go back to her. (well, in this point i feel that Charles is a coward, because he only love to Cate's body shape and running away from her when she needs -.-" ) but there always Josh who love her in every weight which has been passed. And they live happily together with Cate's daughter whose is condoned by Charles.

hmm..
after I read this book, i want to cook the delicious food that described in here but unfortunately, the writer didn't gave the recipe here..
I hope i will find a man like Josh who can love his girl not only from her body, just like when Josh love Cate even if Cate is super fat.